Tuesday, May 24, 2016

12 Weeks.

My last post was February 27th.  
To say a lot has happened since then may be the biggest understatement of all time. 

We're adding a new addition to our front porch sittin' crew!

I think I needed the past three months to process the fact that we are actually doing this whole baby makin' thing....again!  In the spirit of being totally candid, I think I underestimated the emotional roller coaster I was jumping on when we decided to grow our family.

You know that rush of sitting in the roller coaster cart, slowly.....slowly.....slowly inching up the massive hill, looking straight up into the sky because your strapped into a metal cart inching upward, completely perpendicular to the ground?

Yeah, that's how I've felt these past few months.

Now just to be clear, we knew exactly what we were doing in those days leading up to visiting the theme park.  We knew what we were committing to when we stepped into the metal cart next to one another, strapped ourselves in and took off for the ride of our lives.  

As we inch ever so slowly up that hill....week after week after week, we know we're in for the ride of our lives.  

Just don't look down.  

I will admit, I have spent a fair share of this first trimester peeking over the side of the roller coaster cart, looking down into the scary unknown. Wondering what the hell I've gotten myself into.

However, now that the nausea has slowly subsided, the hormones have evened out and the fatigue has slowly released it's grip.  Finally, finally the excitement can now inch it's way in. 

And damn, it feels good.

Baby Xenos #2 will be here the end of November!

Now, onto my first BumpDate!

How Far Along? 12 weeks, 6 days!

Weight Gain: Does anyone really want to know this?

Maternity Clothes: I jumped on the strictly maternity pants ship around 8 weeks.  This baby isn't messing around!

Stretch marks: Please.  I was covered in them before I got pregnant.


Cravings: Mexican, mexican and mexican. But that's nothing new :)

Gender: WE KNOW!  WE KNOW! 
But keeping it a secret until our Gender Reveal on the 4th of July!

Mood: Sentimental

Nursery: I have a Pinterest board starting to fill up, but keeping it locked for now
Movement: None, but CAN'T WAIT!!

Sleep: Like a baby!

Workouts: Please.  I have a toddler.  

Anything making you queasy or sick: Not these days, thank the VERY GOOD LORD!

Until next time, my friends!  

Wednesday, March 9, 2016

All Aboard: How to Cruise Smart

Being that we just debarked our third cruise in 4 years, that totally makes us crushing experts. #notreally

Carnival Sunshine, Bahamas

But we definitely feel more knowledgeable than we did 4 years ago. We initially chose a cruise because we were broke. We had put aside every penny we had for our upcoming wedding. There wasn't much left after the DJ, flowers and venue were booked however taking a honeymoon was not something we were willing to sacrifice on.  So I did some internet surfing (does anyone still say that?) and found that the only way we we'd be drinking cocktails on the beach in Mexico was if we cruised there, so off we went, rookie cruisers all decked out in our aviator sunglasses & target fedoras.

We've found that people either love cruising or don't. There has definitely been some negativity in the media lately which has increased overall speculation about cruising.  Which hey, if you're absolutely terrified of hurricanes, then yes, cruising is probably not for you.  However, a hurricane can rip the roof off your beautiful Sandals resort just as quickly as the waves it would cause while at sea.  Where you'd feel more safe....well, that's for you to answer.   

So whip yourself up a Pina Colada, open your mind to the idea of cruising across the beautiful ocean and read what I've shared below!

 Things to Know Before You Book:

1.) First and foremost, are you within driving distance to a port? We have only cruised Carnival, however there are many cruise terminals scattered all over the US coast lines. For us, Galveston, Texas was the most drivable. Choosing this port also eliminated the expense and hassle of flying, which I would highly recommend if possible. Galveston's about 12 hours from Kansas City. We split the drive up over two days, so it wasn't bad at all!

Leaving Port on the Carnival Sunshine (Florida)

2.) Once you narrow down which port works best for you, you then choose the following:
  • Sail Date
  • Cruise Line
  • Destination
I would highly advise a cruise during the months of May-October. We just got back from a Jan/Feb cruise and it was not as warm as we would've preferred. The Bahamas were an average temp of 70-75 with high winds. When we've cruised in May & October/early November, the weather was FANTASTIC. Warm enough that you look forward to a dip in he ocean to cool off. Be sure and investigate weather temperatures for your destination prior to booking!!

Carnival Magic, 2012

3.) We have always cruised with Carnival. They have always been the most affordable and we've had a great experience each time.  Like the old saying goes, if it ain't broke, don't fix it. Once we choose the port and month of travel, we then check out all the destinations that Carnival sails to from that port along with the different ship options.  If I were you, I wouldn't bother with the 3 day cruise options.  Pay the extra $100 and select at least a 5 day cruise.  It's the perfect amount of time!  We have tried a 7 day cruise, and honestly, we felt it was a bit too long.  We were vacationed out after 5. 

Drinking CayBrew in the Cayman Islands

4.) Our first two cruises we chose solely based on destinations. Our most recent cruise, we did a ton of research on the ACTUAL SHIPS. There are older ships that are great and there are newer ships with all the bells and whistles such as additional restaurant options, different bars inside the boat and some even have massive water parks on the top of the ship. Carnival calls these ships "Fun Ships." If your taking the kiddos, be sure and select a Fun Ship.  You can drop your kiddos off at Camp Carnival &  mommy & daddy can enjoy plenty of kid free cocktail time. We have not taken our daughter on a cruise yet based on a few reasons, but once she gets older we plan to bring her along.

Dinner at Cucina Del Capitano, AMAZING Italian Restaurant Featured on the Carnival Fun Ships

5.) Once you select your sail date, port, your ship and destination, you're ready to pick your room.  This is one of the most important parts of booking people, so  pay attention. You do NOT want to be in the front of the ship or the back of the ship. Pay a few extra dollars per day and select a room on a higher floor (floor 7 or above) and select a room MIDSHIP. This is for a few reasons, one being that you will not feel the motion at all.  Also, you want to be located close to all the action! These boats are WAY BIGGER than you can ever fathom, so if you don't choose a good location for your stateroom, you'll spend more time trekking back and forth from your room instead of sipping cocktails on the deck.

There are different room sizes. We have always gotten an interior state room, the most affordable option. Listen, you do not need a damn balcony. You have an entire cruise deck right outside your room with the most gorgeous views you could ever imagine.  Don't spend the extra money to get some fancy room. Save that money and put it toward an amazing shore excursion such as a dolphin swim or an all inclusive private beach party. Those memories are worth every cent. A private balcony is not.

We really love towel animals

Now that you've chosen your sail date, port, your ship, the destination and your stateroom, you're almost ready to book!

6.) One thing to remember to select during your booking process is ANYTIME DINING. Who the hell wants to be told when to eat? Not us. Its a common misconception by people that have never cruised, that you have set meal times. That is not true. We have chosen ANYTIME DINING and we eat dinner whenever the hell we want. Trust me, after a long day of vodka on the beach in Mexico, you'll be hungry for an early dinner an early bedtime. Who wouldn't?!

7.) Also, choose to pre pay your gratuities. This ensures that you take care of all the amazing staff that you'll come to know by name! It's added on automatically once you board your ship, that way you don't forget. We paid $120 in gratuity for our cabin staff and housekeeping team. This was for a 5 day cruise.

Your gratuity for drinks is automatically added on to each bar tab every drink you order, which is also nice. You don't have to stand there at the bar calculating each and every tip. Trust me, after a few rum punches, math is no longer an easy process. I believe the automatic gratuity is 15% for beverages.

8.) Trip insurance. We always choose to purchase the cruise insurance. That's totally your call, just our personal preference.

9.) Now that you've chosen your sail date, port, your ship, your stateroom, your dining experience and taken care of gratuities, your ready to book!  You can choose to put half down and pay the other half a month before your cruise or pay for all of it up front. Your choice.

The shows they feature on the ship are just as amazing as BROADWAY!

After I book a cruise, I utilize the ShipMate app so I can check the status of our cruise every month or so leading up to embarkation (boarding the ship). It has some fun little tools like a cruise countdown as well as a GPS locator for your ship at any time. You can even watch your ship coming into port to pick you up!

10.) Lastly, with regard to shore excursions, we never book in advance. Listen, no one does. We wait until we board the ship and we spend the first afternoon aboard the boat with a cocktail in hand perusing the shore excursion newsletter together. We choose our different excursions that first afternoon and go to the shore excursion desk to get our spots reserved. Spots fill up quickly for some of the popular options, so you'd want to be sure and book that first afternoon if you can. If you choose to wait, the cruise director will do a presentation during your first full day at sea outlining the details of the different excursions however you may not get a spot on the ones you really want.
Horseback Riding in the Bahamas, this excursion actually took you in the ocean on your horse.  So much fun!

Horseback Riding in Mexico
Jeep Tour on Grand Bahama Island

Again, I would recommend booking your excursions the day your board the boat. We do an excursion at every port. I would consider these our splurge for the trip, but a splurge well worth it. These experiences are once in a lifetime and led by companies that Carnival has partnered with, therefore we always feel safe. We have never ONCE been disappointed in an excursion. We've done horse back riding, we've done all inclusive beach parties (gorgeous private beaches with all you can eat and drink!) as well as the dolphin swim, our favorite excursion this far. Shore excursions range in price from $25 a person to $180ish a person. You can find them to fit any budget, but if you're going to splurge anywhere, SPLURGE ON SHORE EXCURSIONS!!

Swimming with Dolphins in the Bahamas.  BEST MONEY WE HAVE EVER SPENT!!
Make sure it's a Dolphin SWIM, not just a Dolphin Encounter.

Safari in Jamaica

 Things to Know Before You Cruise:

1.) Check with your doctor about motion sickness medicine called scopolamine. It's a prescription strength patch you put behind your ear prior to sailing. It's totally non drowsy and hassle free. You keep it behind your ear for the first few days and then remove. I would highly recommend going this route for first time cruisers.

Beach Day Shore Excursion in Nassau

For our most recent cruise, we chose to try the "less drowsy" Dramamine pills instead. If you've never taken Dramamine, TEST IT OUT BEFORE YOU LEAVE. We had booked a shore excursion to go deep sea fishing that ended up getting cancelled at the last minute and I had already taken 2 Dramamine pills. I was so sleepy I could barely enjoy the excursion we had that day. Had I taken it beforehand, I would've known that I had a sensitivity to it and therefore skipped it entirely.
Trust me, stick with scopolamine if your doctor approves.

2.) Swimsuits. You will LIVE in them, so if you want to invest your money somewhere prior to heading out on vaca, snag some cute suits and even cuter coverups because you'll spend 80% of the time in a suit. Virtually everyone on the boat does so you don't feel out of place.

3.) Tennis shoes and long pants. DO NOT FORGET THESE. There are a few shore excursions that mandate tennis shoes and long pants. Be sure and have those just in case!

4.) If you want to get extra dolled up one night, do not forget an elegant dress for you and slacks for your husband. I absolutely LOVE getting all fancied up from time to time and Elegant Night the perfect excuse! Sequins and stilettos, yes please!

Also, if you choose a Fun Ship, some of the upscale restaurants on ship requires that the men wear dress slacks, so don't forget a pair! One cruise we forgot and ended up scouring the streets of Jamaica to find Jon some slacks. Do they even wear slacks in Jamaica? The answer is no. We ended up with bright yellow khakis which I think are fun, Jon, not so much. He hasn't worn them since.

5.) Sunscreen sunscreen sunscreen. We go thru about 3 bottles of sunscreen each cruise. Listen, that Caribbean sun is NO JOKE. And if you think you're going to get all cute and tan one day by skipping the sunscreen, you're wrong. You'll look like a damn lobster. And lobsters ain't cute. I speak from experience.

And because I know you'll ignore my advice and "ease" into the sunscreen, just do yourself a favor and pack Aloe Vera.

6.) HATS. You can never have too many hats. They're great to throw on for an afternoon at the beach or to wear when you're flying across the ocean on a catamaran. I take a ball cap and several floppy sun hats. The ball cap I wear in the morning before we head out to the deck to enjoy our coffee. Listen, momma ain't doing her hair everyday. The sun hats I wear every single day, rotating out to match my suit of course. OCD color coordinators put your hands up! #handintheair

7.) Aviators. Because you're a badass.

8.) Flip flops, because hello captain obvious.

9.) And last but not least, FLOWY DRESSES. Unless you're a freak show that can suck down 10+ cocktails and eat shit all day and not bloat, you'll thank me later for this one. Do not, I repeat, do not pack anything that even remotely resembles a form fitting dress because it will never leave your closet. Ladies, do yourself a favor and think fun, flirty, FLOWY when packing evening attire.

10.) And last but certainly not least, throw in one of those massive bottles of Tums while your at it. Trust me, you'll need 'em.  The food is AMAZING and you'll want to taste everything. 

At the end of your cruise, you'll select your debarkation option (exiting the ship).  If you choose a port that you have to fly to, don't be scared to book a flight home the same day your ship arrives back in port. You will debark your ship as early as 8:00 am, if you choose the self assist debarkation in which you walk off the boat WITH your luggage. If you chose relaxed debarkation, you set you luggage in the hall the night before your get back to port. The next morning you'll have to wait on the people who chose self assist debarkation to exit the ship. If you choose relaxed debarkation, you exit the ship later as well as the added hassle of having to track down your luggage. No thank you!

Again, if you choose to fly home the same day your ship gets into port, choose self assist debarkation. You'll have more than enough time to get a cab, rental car, or shuttle to the airport and get home that SAME DAY. I would recommend doing so because if you're anything like us, you are have had more fun than you could ever imagine over the past 5 days and you are vacationed OUT. You will not want to hang around another full day prior to flying back home. If you drive to your port, you literally walk off your ship, load your luggage in the car and drive off! It's a beautiful, hassle free experience which we LOVE. Like I said, if you can drive to a port, do it. Save you lots of time and $$.

Sunrise from the ship

Saturday, February 13, 2016

Why I'm Ready to Say Goodbye to my Twenties

Well, well, well...

My 30th birthday is on Monday and I have to say, I can't wait to officially say goodbye to my twenties. If you sit down and really think about it, it's actually pretty nuts how much life change happens within a short, 10 year span.

If you choose to go to college as I did, you drink like a total lush at the age of 20, you know, just preparing your liver for turning 21.  And partly due to the rush of using a fake ID. My false identity was a girl named Misty. She looked like a crack hoe and I was actually offended everytime my fake ID worked.

By the time you turn 21, you deem yourself a drinking expert. You drink shit that's on fire, you throw back shots that literally put hair on your back, wondering why you end up vomiting in the dirty bar bathroom by the end of the night. I mean, you're 21 after all. You should be able to handle this. 

Meanwhile, you're supposed to study harder than you ever have in your life.  On limited brain cells, mind you.  You're expected to get up at the crack of dawn, and by crack of dawn, I mean 10:00 am college time.  You attend class reeking of beer, lucky if you remembered to put a bra on under your oversized Delta Delta Delta hoodie.

You decide what you want to do with your entire life in your early twenties over a $5 pitcher of beer. Then you pay tens of thousands of dollars working toward a degree in a field you've never worked a day in.

At 22, you graduate.That's if you don't end up on the 6 year plan.  Me, I somehow by the grace of God got out in 4 years.  To demonstrate how immature someone can be at 22, I'll use myself as an example. I pulled several fire alarms my senior year of college and almost got kicked out of school 6 weeks before graduation.  At the age of 22.

6 short years later, I'd go on to have my own child.  Bless her heart. 

At 23, you attempt to move out of your totally free parents house to live this pretend adult life that you know absolutely nothing about.  You learn how expensive groceries are.  I mean, $2 for a head of lettuce?!?! (As you have a $12 case of Natty Light in your cart. A 30 pack, mind you).  Priorities people.

You take the first job you can get just to pay your water bill. Just like that, you take off into the great big world of adulthood.

You try to maintain your tolerance for liquor and quickly realize that careers and hangovers do not mesh. But you do it anyway. You frequently battle those challenging questions....whiskey, or electricity?

Eh, whiskey.

A few years later you decide It's time to marry your college sweetheart.  I mean, he's hung around thru your drunk shenanigans for like, 4 years now.  He must be the one, right?

You make the biggest decision of your life, at the age of 25.  25, people!  Let that sit for a minute.

You begin to plan your wedding, mostly broke, just beginning to feel the pang of student loan debt.  Now, why did I go to college? 

If you're a sinner like me, you went ahead and moved in with your future husband.  While researching wedding venues, you start to see what this soulmate is really like 24 hours a day.  You quickly realize he doesn't appear to know how to do dishes or wipe off his beard trimmings from your bathroom counter.  You decide to marry him anyway.

As you lay out the budget for your twenty something wedding, you prioritize the open bar. Screw the flowers, we need more wine.

Oh, and you've moved onto wine now.  That makes you feel more like an adult.  You begin to carry around your wine glass at events, pretending you're so much more mature than those younger girls. Meanwhile, you're drinking your cheap wine out of a plastic Harpo's cup at home, in your tiny Westport apartment. 

You quickly learn what a wine hangover feels like and think about turning back.

But you persevere, and by your late twenties, you're a total wino. You realize people don't judge you for drinking an entire bottle of wine the same way they did when you took one too many shots.  No one takes shots of vodka at play dates, but wine.  Oh yes.  

By 28, your body changes.  Those bottles of wine you polish off on a Friday night still linger with you come Sunday afternoon.  You and your non dish cleaning husband decide it's time to take 9 months off and you get pregnant.

You realize how incredible it is to not be hungover every weekend. You're body begins to do things it's never done before.  It later hangs in places it never hung before.  But more importantly, your heart grows in a way it's never grown before.

In your late twenties, you become a mom.  Yet another life changing experience.  This one though, is the best one yet.

Then just like that, your chasing around your beautiful little toddler at the age of 29.  That little toddler reminds you of yourself.  Fiercely independent, dimples for days and one hot temper.

You find yourself hoping she experiences all that your twenties held for you.  You hope she goes go to college and makes it out in 4 years.  You hope she forms the bonds you did over $5 pitchers of beer, those friendships that last a lifetime.  You secretly hope she pulls a few fire alarms.  Hey, you can learn a lot by a night spent in jail. The girls that  bail you out will be your bridesmaids a few short years later.

You hope she feels the independence of paying her own way, even if it means she has to ask you for money a few times.  You hope she finds a career that ignites her.  That challenges her.  A career she's proud of.

You hope she finds a man that's just like her daddy.  Strong, handsome and humble.  A man that will wait patiently while she finds herself.  A man that will bail her out of jail.  A man that will tame her in the best way possible.

And most of all, you hope she experiences the selfless, life changing love of becoming a mother.

Sayonara, twenties.

You did me good.  

Real good.

Friday, February 12, 2016

Proud to be #thatmom

What the hell does that even mean?? Well, apparently it's a thing.

I ran into an old friend the other day who recently became a mommy. I told her how much I LOVE all the baby spam of her sweet newborn. I encouraged her to post more (because who doesn't love a squishy baby spam filled IG feed?).  She told me she was trying not to overdue it because she didn't want to be that mom

I'm sorry, what? 

That mom.

Like it's disgusting to be crazy madly in love with your new baby and spam all your social media accounts with photos of the child you grew inside your womb.

You know what's disgusting?

Honey Boo Boo.

A morbidly obese family running around with their fupa's hanging out and having affairs with their kids.

Society loves that family and they sure as hell aren't embarrassed to share their trashiness all over national television. 

But some new momma's are afraid to share too many pictures on social media of their precious new baby?? All out of fear of being labeled that mom. What the hell is wrong with this picture??

If people would rather see the latest photos of Honey Boo Boo chowing down on a cheeseburger rather than see your adorable baby photos than that's on them. 

Not you, new mommy.

You continue to take hundreds of pictures a day of your sweet little baby; sleeping, eating, smiling, drooling and sleeping some more. And while your at it, throw in some videos too, as many as you damn well please. 

And you post these pictures. You post them all damn day long if you want. Wear the title "that mom," loud and proud. 

Because listen, I'd much rather see photos of your precious angel than read about the Duggar brother molesting  his little sister. 

And quite frankly, society should too. 

Sunday, January 10, 2016

Favorite 15 of '15

There's just something I totally dig about the beginning of January.  

It feels....fresh.  

A time to reflect.

2015 was a year I'm ok with saying goodbye to.
If I had to choose one word to describe 2015, it'd be challenging.

In January we made the excruciating decision to sell our little lake home. 
We listed in March.
Sold in April.
Moved in with my parents in May.
Moved into our new home mid renovation, in June.
I started a new job (same company) in June.
The latter part of 2015 was spent learning how to parent a very feisty, very active toddler.

The same things that made 2015 challenging are the same reasons I loved 2015.

While it hasn't been easy, I know without a shadow of a doubt that we found the right home for us. It's dusty, definitely dated and a little rough around the edges but it's ours. 
It will be the home we'll raise our family in. 
We know we're exactly where we're supposed to be and that's a pretty amazing feeling, half painted walls and all. We're less than 15 minutes from family, over 3 acres of land and most importantly, lots of extra bedrooms to grow into. 

My new job.
It's been one of the hardest things I've taken on professionally throughout my entire career, by a landslide. However, I get goosebumps at the ground we are making as a team, every single week.  
I am proud of what we're building.
I am proud of the team I've put together.
Tears and all, I'd make this leap of faith all over again given the chance.
I can't wait to see what we accomplish in 2016!

2015.  I'll always remember this as the year Lara grew into a very independent, albeit absolutely adorable little girl.  
A little girl who can talk scream, eat her own food throw her own food and tell Mommy bye bye when she leaves for school.  It's absolutely amazing to watch your baby turn into a toddler however I was not prepared for how fast that would happen!  If I could, I'd turn back time and cherish the baby snuggles for a few more months. Jon and I continue to be blown away at her beauty, at her level of understanding and of course, her fiercely independent personality.  She won't even let me rock her to sleep these days!!  Last week I dropped her off at school and instead of hysterics, she literally blew me a kiss, waved bye bye and turned around and walked off.  I'll admit.  I cried as I walked out to my car.  It's such a bittersweet feeling watching your baby grow up....and the minute I think i'm good with it, my heart aches at how quickly she's changing.  

Now, without further adieu....here are my favorite 15 actually 18 because I couldn't narrow it down any further photos of 2015!

Her first time riding like a big girl in the cart, January 2015

6 month checkup, Feb 2015

Her first time in her big girl stroller without her carseat!  March 2015

Saint Patrick's Day, 2015.  She had to wear pink because she crapped all over her green!

8 months old, April 2015

Our Monkeys First Swim Class, Spring 2015

Duck Hunting, Spring 2015

Easter 2015

This photo will always be sentimental to me as it was one of MANY photos Lara's daycare teachers sent me after I returned to work after maternity leave.  These photos will ALWAYS be SO DEAR to me as they kept me going everyday while at work.

Our last photo in our Home Sweet Lake Home. May 2015

Renovating with a toddler, not an easy feat!  Summer 2015

Her very first BIG GIRL ponytail!

Lara's 1st day in the toddler room!  I remember her looking SO GROWN UP to me that morning!!

August 15th, Lara's 1st birthday!!

Her 1st Birthday Party Dress--My wedding dress belt was attached. 

Halloween 2015--The Smore Family!

Her first big girl picture day at school!!

Our little beauty!  Christmas 2015